The Battle of the Sari Bulge

I’m having a staring contest with a chocolate bar today.  Halloween is coming up in nine days, and I found a buy-one-get-one-free sale on bags of Halloween candy for trick or treating…so I bought four.  I told myself we needed extra candy in case of an unusual onslaught of trick-or-treaters this year.  But a little…

A Son by Any Other Name

  My dad was a funny man.  Always one to crack jokes, tease and make up funny names for people, he seemed at ease in any situation.  But when my husband showed up at the front door to pick me up for our first date, I cringed.  Though Dad shook hands with him and politely…

The Mehndi Tradition

  My husband and I were married in a Christian wedding ceremony.  Like most American young girls, I had fantasized about my white wedding dress for years.  I wanted a silk, lacy dress with a train that trailed behind me like a princess, a gauzy veil on my head, and a fragrant bouquet of white…

Music Culture: Never Tear Us Apart

Culture:  The behaviors and beliefs characteristic of a particular social, ethnic, or age group.  (Dictionary.com) With all of this talk about intercultural relationships and families in this blog, I realized that what I’ve really been writing about is differences in ethnic culture.  My husband and I are the products of two very different ethnic traditions,…

You’re Marrying Who?

Back in the early 1990’s when my husband and I got married, intercultural relationships and marriage were not as accepted as they are today.  When we would walk together in the mall, or eat at restaurants, white people’s heads often turned, sometimes shaking with disapproval. I had a friend who, knowing my husband was Hindu,…